where is the thread about bullying, am i getting bullied?

[aldrianna]

i would like to read the thread about bullying, i had mentioned that i was gettin bullied and well i guess i dont know the right term for it. i am gettting attacked and attacked by someone and then they have several of their sisters attacking me, just needing to know what this is called because its not called serial attacking, its more then one more and their all from the same house, do you call this bullying

[LittleChoco]

No, it's just called playing the game.

[PopAngel]

well i am sorry to read about this
i know how you feel
those players are annoying the only thing i recommend is leave it alone
dont increase you confidence(don't go to the spa)
they wont have a reason to attack you if your your confidence is low
they are gonna give up on you (unless it is rick astley lol JK)
they are gonna dessapear
ignore those comments that say that that is way the game is
there is a big difference between fun and annoying people messing with you
send me a private message if you want to add me

[Barbie Dahl]

No, it's just called playing the game.

This made me giggle.

[Sara]

Do you mean this thread? http://forum.playdom.com/showthread.php?54518-Are-You-Being-BULLIED-STALKED-or-HARRASSED

[♥Tinky-Christynitza♥]

This made me giggle.

It's still truth. :p

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I attack same girls brutally (like 15 attacks or so) ,sometimes twice or triple a day. Not because I'm looking specifically for them ,but they're on my fight list so it's not my problem. You can't call that bullying. -.- It might be annoying to you but it's not bullying. Some people play like that. Glam up if you don't want to be beaten up. They'll give up if you hide on mini for a while or if you beat them up. You don't have to put your points on charm ,just on popularity so you can defend.
Other story is if attacker starts insulting you and your sisters ,which doesn't seem to be problem here.

[mysticgirl916]

Or just ignore them. They'll eventually get bored and move on to somebody else

[TNPATL]

It's annoying but it's not bullying. You have a couple of options. Make sure you have a full house and everyone is glammed up. Make sure your Pop is at or higher than level for defense. Keep your confidence below 20% so you can't be attacked. That's provided you are still not doing Quest in the SA. Once someone realize they can win against you they will keep attacking until they can't. Again it can be annoying, but it's not bullying.

[memaha512]

What about when the same players attack, burn, and slap you mercilessly every day, but then take it completely off the game, to sites that ARE NOT connected in any way, shape, or form, and use THAT as a way to harass you? What about when they leave messages on your WB (they're now blocked from mine, Playdom is always quick to remind me to do that, yet they do little else to help!), and/or on their own, or on your sisters', etc., calling you vile things? For instance, I have one player calling me such things as "hosebeast" (I was unaware of what this crude term meant, until I looked it up on Urban Dictionary), another is bringing my RL career into things, calling me "Angel of Death", yet another said that my husband killed himself so he wouldn't have to look at my ugly face (he died a year ago, of natural causes), and that sort of thing.

I guess I'm wondering, too, when does "normal game behavior" (and yes, attacks, slaps, and burns ARE part of the game, yet when they're totally excessive, it DOES become somewhat abusive-- for instance, I have one player attacking/slapping OVER 200 times a day!) cross the line? I have also had other players tell my SL sisters to remove me from their houses-- or else. I have had SL sisters attacked for being MY sister, even. Believe me, since I've started playing this game, I've seen some of the WORST behavior come out of people.

[♥Tinky-Christynitza♥]

What about when the same players attack, burn, and slap you mercilessly every day, but then take it completely off the game, to sites that ARE NOT connected in any way, shape, or form, and use THAT as a way to harass you? What about when they leave messages on your WB (they're now blocked from mine, Playdom is always quick to remind me to do that, yet they do little else to help!), and/or on their own, or on your sisters', etc., calling you vile things? For instance, I have one player calling me such things as "hosebeast" (I was unaware of what this crude term meant, until I looked it up on Urban Dictionary), another is bringing my RL career into things, calling me "Angel of Death", yet another said that my husband killed himself so he wouldn't have to look at my ugly face (he died a year ago, of natural causes), and that sort of thing.

I guess I'm wondering, too, when does "normal game behavior" (and yes, attacks, slaps, and burns ARE part of the game, yet when they're totally excessive, it DOES become somewhat abusive-- for instance, I have one player attacking/slapping OVER 200 times a day!) cross the line? I have also had other players tell my SL sisters to remove me from their houses-- or else. I have had SL sisters attacked for being MY sister, even. Believe me, since I've started playing this game, I've seen some of the WORST behavior come out of people.

Even they attack you thousand times ,it's still not bullying. But if someone insults you like that ,it is bullying and you should do something about it straight away!

[Sara]

What about when the same players attack, burn, and slap you mercilessly every day, but then take it completely off the game, to sites that ARE NOT connected in any way, shape, or form, and use THAT as a way to harass you? What about when they leave messages on your WB (they're now blocked from mine, Playdom is always quick to remind me to do that, yet they do little else to help!), and/or on their own, or on your sisters', etc., calling you vile things? For instance, I have one player calling me such things as "hosebeast" (I was unaware of what this crude term meant, until I looked it up on Urban Dictionary), another is bringing my RL career into things, calling me "Angel of Death", yet another said that my husband killed himself so he wouldn't have to look at my ugly face (he died a year ago, of natural causes), and that sort of thing.

I guess I'm wondering, too, when does "normal game behavior" (and yes, attacks, slaps, and burns ARE part of the game, yet when they're totally excessive, it DOES become somewhat abusive-- for instance, I have one player attacking/slapping OVER 200 times a day!) cross the line? I have also had other players tell my SL sisters to remove me from their houses-- or else. I have had SL sisters attacked for being MY sister, even. Believe me, since I've started playing this game, I've seen some of the WORST behavior come out of people.

Anything that uses a button in the game is legitimate game play. I personally don't understand why some people slap others hundreds of times in a row, just because I can find better uses for my stamina and I don't particularly like conflict.

BUT the other things you mentioned, especially them contacting you on other sites, would most definitely be harassment. You should report any inappropriate comments they leave you within SL and then block them so that they can't leave any more messages. If the sites they're contacting you on have a report/block function, I would do the same there. There are some people who take things much further than they should, especially when we consider that SL is just a game on FB/MS/wherever.

[Jewels77]

From someone who DOES serial attack people, I will give you these nuggets of advice. Don't spa up for a little bit. It is completely possible that they are just working the fight list and you just keep showing up. Don't leave ANY messages on their WB, this will give them a direct link to you and if the message is not so nice, the attacks will get worse. Key word here: IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE. Unless you are confident you can beat them, do not retaliate. If you don't have a full house of sisters, don't attack back or slap them. It eggs them on, especially if you lose, and kind of makes them giggle, to be honest.

[maichan]

From someone who DOES serial attack people, I will give you these nuggets of advice. Don't spa up for a little bit. It is completely possible that they are just working the fight list and you just keep showing up. Don't leave ANY messages on their WB, this will give them a direct link to you and if the message is not so nice, the attacks will get worse. Key word here: IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE. Unless you are confident you can beat them, do not retaliate. If you don't have a full house of sisters, don't attack back or slap them. It eggs them on, especially if you lose, and kind of makes them giggle, to be honest.
Good advice:)
Just ignore them. This is just a game. You don't lose anything in real life.

[Sreeparna]

i just reached level 100 some minutes ago and got a attack from level 242 in BL...really??? a level 100 girl with a level 242???

[♥Tinky-Christynitza♥]

Idk sweety ,but I know a lot higher level can attack you while on BL. D:

[Sara]

i just reached level 100 some minutes ago and got a attack from level 242 in BL...really??? a level 100 girl with a level 242???

Yes, with the most recent fight changes, once you hit level 100, you're fair game on the BL.